In August my classmate, ndaia, moved into a new home in Durham with her sweetheart, Sebastian. "I didn’t grow up having my own space and so I’m very protective of it. So the idea of living with someone was scary at first." I think most of us hold our white-knuckled grips on independence too tightly, and for too long. Getting to spend the morning with these two lovely new friends, reminded me of the light that seeps in when we open ourselves up to new experiences—and make a conscious decision to move beyond fear.